True friendships are a rare and beautiful thing, but staying connected while trying to balance life can be a challenge. My best friend and I joke how we were separated at birth and after 16 years of friendship, a simple text message can have us calling the other and telling them to spill.
As we grow older, things change. We get married, start families, even move away.
If you’re anything like me, you don’t handle big changes well. I mean… who else is going to understand my Harry Potter obsession or pick on me about my love of Gilmore Girls? How are we going to know what’s going on in each others lives if we no longer live in the same state?
These are questions I had to ask myself recently. To be honest, I’m not great with keeping up with people. I tend to be an out of sight, out of mind type of person. This is not a trait I am proud of, so when my friend moved out of state I knew I had to step up my game. When you are not privy to the everyday events of a person’s life, you begin to feel like you are no longer an important part of their life. So we came up with a six activities that required us (me) to make time for each other.
1. Schedule phone dates
Honestly, it works. I am not a phone person, so scheduling phone time means that I will be free and be able to focus on them and what is going on in their life. It also helps with ensuring that there are no interruptions (hopefully). We do not schedule phone dates months in advance (or even days) because neither one of us is that organized (I’m working on it, but it’s a slow process), but just sending a text message asking if the other is free ensures that time is allotted just for us to talk.
2. Read a book together
Pick a book, read it, and then talk about it. We are both huge book nerds, so reading is something we have bonded over for years. Picking a book to read together is a great way for us to have that connection and still share something that we’ve always enjoyed. I will suggest picking an author that either you both like or you both would like to try. I am super picky about my books and if they don’t catch my attention right off I am probably not going to finish it.
3. Plan to visit each other as often as possible
Nothing beats seeing each other face to face, but depending on the distance, how busy your life is, and finances it’s not always possible to visit every weekend. I suggest trying to planning one visit a year. And it doesn’t have to be one sided. Trade off with each other. You go there, they comes here.
Speaking of seeing each other face to face, Facetime is a wonderful tool! Use it! Sometimes you just need to be able to see their facial expressions as they reenact the crazy woman that came into their office that day or show off your new hair style.
5. Plan vacations together
Visiting each other can become very routine and sometimes you need new scenery. Rent a cabin in mountains, go to Disney World, or plan a trip to your favorite city. Go out there and make some memories together.
6. Watch the same TV shows
Do you both share a love for Game of Thrones or Doctor Who? I can’t tell you how many times my friends and I would meet up at one of our houses, eat tons of junk food, and watched our favorite shows. Just because you are no longer down the street from one another doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy watching them together. Call each other while watching the show and discuss your favorite moments as they happen.
What are some of the ways that you connect with your friends? Let me know in the comments. I can’t wait to hear from you!
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